Depression: A Secret Battle Faced By Many

“It feels like everyone is moving forward and I am stuck all alone. No one understands me and I feel like I don’t have the energy to do anything. Who will help me?”

This is how one of my clients explained what depression felt like to him.

He was in a dilemma when he came to me for therapy and I could see how distracted and restless he was at the start of the session.

Fighting a battle within your own mind while hiding it from the outside world can be challenging and exhausting. Happiness and hope seem so scarce when stress is at an all time high. However, it is important to remember that you can defeat depression.

Sadness And Depression Are NOT The Same. 

Sadness and depression are related emotional states but they differ in intensity, duration and underlying causes. 

If you’re feeling sad for longer than 2 weeks, that’s depression, not sadness. 

Sadness is a temporary emotional state triggered by a specific event or situation, such as loss, disappointment, or failure. It is a normal response to the challenges in life and fade over time. 

In contrast, depression is a persistent and long-lasting condition characterized by a depressed mood and a loss of interest or pleasure in the daily activities that we carry out. It lasts for two weeks and can go on for months or even years if proper treatment is not given. 

“Depression has many faces and disguises. It can hit each one of us differently. The feelings associated with depression are mostly similar but the experience can be entirely different for everyone.”

Defeating depression starts with taking charge of your mental health. Here are some steps you can take to regain control:

• Seek professional help: Reach out to a therapist or counsellor who specializes in mental health. They can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific needs.

• Build a support network: Surround yourself with loved ones who understand and support you. Sharing your feelings and experiences with trusted individuals can provide immense relief.

• Practice self-care: Take care of your physical and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as exercise, hobbies, or spending time in nature.

• Stay connected: Maintain social connections, even if it feels challenging. Isolation can worsen depressive symptoms, so make an effort to reach out to friends and family.

• Consider therapy: Explore different therapeutic approaches, such as cognitive-behavioural therapy or mindfulness-based therapy. These techniques can help you develop coping mechanisms and improve your overall well-being.

The Signs of Depression

Depression manifests itself in various ways, and its symptoms differ from person to person. Some common signs of depression include:

“My body feels heavy like I have to drag it everywhere and every morning I don’t feel like getting out of bed.”

“I don’t enjoy going out anymore, I don’t want to meet anyone. Why don’t people leave me alone?”

“Nothing tastes good anymore, I don’t feel like eating. I have lost a lot of weight.”

“Since I always feel tired and exhausted, I go to bed thinking to get some sleep, but it doesn’t work out for me. I have difficulty sleeping.

“I have a deadline on this project and I am not able to concentrate and be attentive. Nowadays, I can’t concentrate on anything.”

“Everything sucks. Wish I could end this misery and be free from feeling like this every day.”

These examples are only to explain how the symptoms of depression might show itself. There are also other symptoms required along with these to provide a proper diagnosis of depression.

If you or someone you know is experiencing these symptoms, it is crucial to seek professional help.

How Therapy Can Help You Fight Depression

Therapy is a powerful tool in the fight against depression. It offers a safe space to explore your thoughts and emotions, providing valuable insights and guidance.

Through therapy, you can develop coping strategies, challenge negative thought patterns, and cultivate a more positive mindset.

Remember, therapy is not a sign of weakness but rather a courageous step you take towards your healing and growth.

Message From Bivita

• Depression may be a secret battle, but it is not an unbeatable one. By cultivating empathy, we can create a safe space for those experiencing depression.
• Listening without judgment, offering support, and being patient are small acts that can make a world of difference.
• Depression can be a lonely journey. Remember, you are not alone, and there is hope for a brighter future.
• So, take the first step towards defeating depression today and reclaim your happiness and well-being.

“You say you’re depressed- I can see you trying your best. You are allowed to feel messed up, it does not mean you are defective- it just means you’re human.”